When getting into a relationship, the last thing we think about is if or when it’ll come to an end. Unfortunately, with time, there are many factors that play a role in creating an unfulfilling relationship. Knowing when to walk away from it is key. In this post I’m going to give you a couple of those reasons so you can determine if it’s time to progress forward solo.
Relationships have the potential to enhance your life in so many positive ways. You can feel inspired, loved, seen, and expansive to become a better version of yourself. Unfortunately though, they also have the potential to affect your life in a negative way. You can feel drained, disrespected, confused, and even stuck.
When you get into a relationship, there is so much optimism and hope. Oftentimes, we feel like we have to remain in the relationship and continue trying because it feels easier than walking away. Let’s face it, breakups are hard. There’s no way around it. Even if it’s a mutual decision, it’s still a difficult transition because you’re grieving the person you were in the relationship as well as the future you envisioned with that particular person.
Don’t let the fear of facing a breakup stop you from walking away from an unfulfilling relationship though. Once you get to the other side, it’s all worth it. You deserve to be in a happy, healthy, loving and peaceful relationship. If you have been questioning your relationship, continue reading to find out when it’s time to walk away from it.
There is abuse involved
If you are being abused in any way, it is time to walk away from the relationship. Chances are, this happened gradually over time, but once you recognize the signs of it, it is best to leave. Besides physical, other types of abuse are emotional, verbal, sexual and financial abuse. There are no reasons to tolerate any type of abuse.
Make sure you stay safe by creating a proper plan to leave. You can find additional resources to leave an abusive relationship HERE. Also, here is a resource regarding financial abuse.
You’ve lost yourself
Another reason to walk away from a relationship is if you’ve lost yourself with no way back. Again, this tends to happen gradually. Once you come to this realization you can put in effort to get back to who you want to be. If you find yourself feeling unable to pursue your goals and interests, consider walking away. I’m a big proponent of open and honest communication so I encourage you to voice your needs and desires from the very beginning. It’s time to walk away when nothing changes and you’ve lost yourself in the process.
Disregard for boundaries
If you’ve attempted communicating your needs and desires in your relationship and your partner disregards your boundaries, it’s time to walk away. When you’re in a healthy relationship, both parties want to do what they can to honor and respect one another. If you find that your partner is consistently disregarding your boundaries and possibly attempts to control or manipulate you, the best thing to do is end the relationship.
Consistent negativity
If your relationship becomes really negative, it’s time to consider walking away. Especially if you are constantly feeling drained and don’t feel like yourself. It’s time to leave if the relationship is affecting your self-esteem especially if your partner is blatantly bringing you down, calling you names or disrespecting you. You deserve to be with someone who wants to make you happy. Someone who respects, honors and cares for you.
You’ve given it your all
As mentioned previously, communication is key in a healthy relationship. If you’ve been completely open and honest with your partner all along and you’ve voiced your needs and desires with no progress, it’s time to leave. If you constantly have the same conversation over and over again, it’s time to leave. Just because you both are comfortable communicating your needs, it’s almost pointless if actions don’t back up the words spoken.
Things to consider when walking away
When making the final decision to walk away, I encourage you to seek a support system. Tell a close friend or family member your plans to leave. This will hold you accountable and you’ll have them to lean on for support when needed. You can also seek therapy or hire me as your life coach to support you during the transition because breakups are a whole process that require time and attention.
Another thing to consider is to be compassionate with yourself. I’m sure you didn’t get into the relationship expecting it to end but humans are complex and you have to choose yourself at the end of the day. Your wellbeing matters and you deserve to be in a healthy relationship full of respect and support.
A final thing to consider when walking away from a relationship is to set boundaries after the breakup. I don’t recommend attempting to remain friends especially immediately after the breakup. It becomes a slippery slope because it’s hard to shut off feelings that soon. So give yourself the permission to heal on your own (as difficult as it may feel). Blocking your ex can help you move on quicker because it’ll cut the contact and give you your time and energy back.
Final thoughts
One final thought I have about walking away from a relationship that no longer serves you is to be proud of yourself for doing it! It takes so much courage and effort to take that leap. Breakups are not easy, no matter how much time you shared with the person. It’s impossible to shut off your feelings and forget the good times you shared.
With that being said, always remember the reason why you ended the relationship because those good memories will creep up and taint your perception, potentially having you question or second guess your decision. Trust yourself and finally, trust the Universe that by taking this step, you’ve now made room for something even better!
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