There is something to be said about wedding etiquette – the do’s and dont’s are not always clear. And one of the most of the important topics? What to wear to the wedding or more importantly, what not to wear.
When you’re not a bridesmaid, figuring out what to wear to a wedding can be a struggle and a half: you don’t want to overdo it and outshine the bride, but you also don’t want to be too casual and show up in beat-up sandals.
A happy medium is ideal, but we know it’s easier said than done. If you’re looking for answers, you’re in the right place: here are the worst faux pas you want to avoid, and the best tips on how to avoid them.
Wedding guest outfit faux pas #1: Wearing white
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White, cream, ivory, and any other kindred hues are reserved for the bride and the bride only. It might not be a big deal to some unconventional brides, but not wearing white as a wedding guest is still very much a thing.
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Wedding guest outfit faux pas #2: Avoid doing too much (AKA red carpet syndrome)
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Weddings are important events even to those participating as guests, so the temptation to show up and show out is strong.
To avoid red carpet syndrome, pay close attention to the theme of the wedding and the venue: that should give you an idea of the general vibe of the wedding, and how you can match it. The last thing you want to do is outshine the bride or wear a floor length gown to an outdoor wedding!
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Wedding guest outfit faux pas #3: Too short, too much cleavage, or too see-through
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Is it okay to show cleavage at a wedding? And how much cleavage is too much? These are burning questions, especially for the big-chested girls out there, who are told to “cover up” no matter what.
As a general rule of thumb, a couple inches of “natural” cleavage—you’ll have to leave the push-up bra at home for this one!—won’t hurt anyone.
As for length and sheerness, keep in mind that the ceremony might be held in a place of worship, where you might be asked to adhere to certain rules.
So, bring a scarf or shawl to cover your shoulders if need be, and avoid sheer or mini dresses.
To avoid cleavage drama, opt for an halter style
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Wedding guest outfit faux pas #4: Oversized headgear
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Unless you’re a guest at a royal wedding, there’s no need for you to be wearing an oversized hat or fascinator. If you’d like to still incorporate a headpiece into your wedding guest outfit, opt for something more understated. You’ll be super classy regardless!
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Original text: Zeinab Saidoun
Updated text and content: Emma Trimboli
